Goodbye दक्षिण : The South in India


As I pack my bags and leave the city of Bangalore and reflect on the two years that I spent here, I couldn’t be more grateful to these two years for showing me the India that I was so little aware of. I was so ignorant that I couldn’t easily distinguish between scripts and speech of Tamil and Malayalam or Kannada and Telugu.

Two years later, my ring tone is Kanmani Anbodu, my favorite actor is R Madhavan and my favorite vacation place is Vagamon in Kerala. It was here in the south I discovered the world of millets in their full glory. Not a single day has gone in last so many months when I did not eat Ragi Roti. My kitchen would be stocked up with 15 varieties of lentils, half of which I never saw before.  I would source my soap and spices from Kerala and Tamil Nadu.


It was here that I could experience Indian festivals beyond Holi and Diwali. One Onam in Palakkad and I was sold! I was converted to a token Mallu. The big sadya that was offered to me by a granny in Palakkad made me indebted to her forever.


Even Holi Diwali changed. For my  nephew and niece, I bought silk clothes from Chennai and turned them into little Madrasi boy and girl!


New friendships happened. Some of the closest friends I made ranged from the lengths and breadths of the South. Even without the conventional presence of domestication through marriage, I was fairly domesticated. Starting the day by a leisurely walk in my mundu through the think canopy of trees to go fetch milk – was something I looked forward to every day.   My love for green only grew after coming to South.  Even in cities here, everybody tries to grow something. How could I be left behind.

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I think these stories will come with me wherever I go. Anytime I will hear Suprabhatam will bring me back into the temple towns of South India. Coconuts will be more than just a fruit. It would be reminiscent of everything that is beautiful about here.

3 thoughts on “Goodbye दक्षिण : The South in India

    1. Yes! I somehow did not look at them very consciously or affectionately as I did in Bangalore. Perhaps, I didn’t feel that connect with them, since I didn’t really bring them in or water them. They were here before I moved in to my parents’ home. And my parents water them. Yesterday, my mother pointed to me to a new hibiscus that bloomed. I looked at them attentively. I realized how unconscious I was! Regardless who these plants belong to, they are still harmless and beautiful species that do nothing but welfare for humans! So now , like in Bangalore, I notice them, water them and at least observe them .

      Your name is spelt incorrectly here aunt mary. Mary Btennan Miller . You may want to fix the middle name,

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